One common phrase women use during sex may sound encouraging, but some men say it does just the opposite, turning passion into “performance pressure.”
Talking about likes and dislikes in the bedroom is often seen as a good thing, with couples encouraged to communicate openly about everything from pace to positions and what feels good.
But according to sex experts and men sharing their experiences online, one phrase that sounds supportive can sometimes have the opposite effect.
‘Triggers an insecurity’
For some men, hearing the words “Don’t stop, harder” creates pressure rather than excitement.
One Reddit user admitted the phrase is something he hears frequently from female partners, especially during rougher sex, but said it can leave him feeling like he has to push himself beyond what feels natural.
“As a male I often hear this from my female partners,” he wrote.
Rather than taking the words as praise, he said he feels compelled to give everything he has, even when it becomes uncomfortable.
“I seem to give it my all in these moments until it becomes uncomfortable which at times I lose the erection. It just triggers an insecurity that I may be a disappointment sexually,” the netizen explained.
